{"id":99,"date":"2021-10-24T21:46:25","date_gmt":"2021-10-25T01:46:25","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/sites.smith.edu\/aace\/?page_id=99"},"modified":"2021-10-24T23:31:47","modified_gmt":"2021-10-25T03:31:47","slug":"shared-experiences","status":"publish","type":"page","link":"https:\/\/sites.smith.edu\/aace\/about-asexuality-and-aromanticism\/shared-experiences\/","title":{"rendered":"Shared Experiences"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><strong>Experiences which are common among aros (though not universal, and also not exclusive to aros):<\/strong><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">Never or rarely ever having crushes<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">Consciously choosing crushes or making up crushes in order to fit in<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">Only having had crushes on people you know really well<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">Only feeling romantically attracted to fictional characters<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">Feeling like it\u2019s very difficult or takes you forever to \u2018fall in love\u2019<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">Not having a \u201ctype\u201d<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">Disliking discussing crushes (yours or other people\u2019s)<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">Entering into a relationship because \u201cthat\u2019s what you\u2019re supposed to do\u201d<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">Feeling that the only thing that appeals to you in a romantic relationship is sex, or having nothing about a romantic relationship appealing to you<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">Dating someone because you wanted to \u2018give them a chance,\u2019 and not because you\u2019re attracted to them<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">Being disinterested in dating altogether<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">Disliking media that\u2019s romance heavy<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">Feeling a disconnect between yourself and romantic media<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">Finding traditionally romantic activities unappealing or uninteresting<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">Deciding you must be straight despite never having a crush on the \u201copposite\u201d gender<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">Labeling yourself as aromantic feels freeing or validating<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><strong>Experiences which are common among aces (though not universal, and also not exclusive to aces):<\/strong><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">Being confused by:<\/span>\n<ul>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">The terms \u2018hot\u2019 and \u2018sexy\u2019<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">Flirting or sexual cues<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">Advertising that uses sexual imagery<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">Peers showing interest in sex (expecially in middle and high school)<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">Why abstinence is so difficult for some people<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">The idea of a \u2018sexual awakening\u2019<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">Celebrity crushes<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">Feeling disconnected from or uncomfortable with:<\/span>\n<ul>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">Sexual tension\/sex scenes in books\/TV\/movies\/etc.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">Discussing sex<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">Being seen as sexual\/sexy<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">Disinterest in a long-term sexual partnership\/marriage<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">Wanting to have sex only with someone one feels a close emotional connection with<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">Never having crushes or choosing crushes<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">Disinterest in relationship-centric media<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">Not understanding the appeal of kissing or making-out<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Experiences which are common among aros (though not universal, and also not exclusive to aros): Never or rarely ever having crushes Consciously choosing crushes or making up crushes in order to fit in Only having had crushes on people you know really well Only feeling romantically attracted to fictional characters Feeling like it\u2019s very 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