This week’s reading made me think back on my time in Denmark, and the ways in which I had to adjust my own communication and body language to better fit the culture. Our program specifically told us to avoid some “American giveaways” such as wearing a huge backpack, or carrying a water bottle on the outside of a bag. Others, I picked up on pretty quickly, especially Danish style – long coats, nice sneakers, jeans/casual wear, and primarily black/grey clothing. By not adhering to these norms, I had similar experiences as the students hitchhiking or on the train: that is, Danes knew I was American before I even spoke.

The reading specifically discussed body language that indicates you like somebody, and expectations of femininity such as crossing your legs or keeping them together. These examples prompted me to think about the ways in which body language is used to communicate aspects of one’s identity, such as gender or even sexuality. I’m a lesbian, and the indicators most commonly looked for are ‘masculine’ clothing and haircuts. As somebody who adheres to quite feminine norms, though, I use body language – consciously and unconsciously – to inform the ways other perceive my sexuality. For example, if I am in a queer space and want to not “look so straight,” I’ll put on more masculine clothing and assume more masculine body language, such as sitting with my arms up or legs apart, leaning forward to initiate conversation, etc. I found that these norms were relevant in Denmark, too.